I have recently quit my job and in the last few years I have been living abroad. In these years, I've become independent and like myself a lot more than I used to. I am contemplating moving back in with my mother for a few years. I am a bit afraid to do this. This was the place where I learned a lot of things that made me dislike myself. I became a reaction to the life my parents had chosen. I developed a temper, shouted and was a generally emotional, overreacting rebellious personality. I am not like that anymore. I have behaved myself. I am just afraid if moving back in would trigger the same old reactions and if my growth of the last few years will have been lost. I disagree with the lifestyle that my parents chose, which involved a lot of people-pleasing and killing their real selves. They led very unhappy lives and my mother continues to do so. Leaving home was one of the healthiest things that I'd ever done for myself. Should I go back?