I once talked to someone who told me how he lost his
virginity by being in a darkened room with a woman and well he had to do what
was expected of him. I know people who married to do what was expected of them.
Who had kids exactly from that same reason. Getting the job or the profession
which was expected of them. But even in our day to day life, how much do we
constantly, every second it seems, do what is expected from us? From saying hi
in a certain way (
post) to smiling when someone comes with a camera, to…
Constantly.
So now what people do is simple – they put you in that
situation. They put you in a situation where you know what is expected and say
nothing, but it is usually enough. People will simply follow and do what is
expected of them. It is not merely
not being able to say no . It is more
than that. It is not knowing what to do otherwise. It is the unknown, the road
less traveled by, and it seems to appear every other second, and almost always
people choose not to worry about it and why bother. The energy needed to
deliberate is hard, and either they are like a deer in the headlight not
knowing what to do, or simply take the obvious way out and meet the minimal
amount of peer pressure. As you should remember any other choice will be
heavily frowned upon, probably constantly, by your surroundings.
What I’m saying is not new, but I did want to turn people’s
attention to how much they are doing it in every moment of their life and that
they perhaps should start to think and wonder maybe it is not what’s best for
them. They should notice it in the small daily events as much as in the grander
decisions. Notice it and open the decision up for reflection rather than
reflex.
