"what I do notice is a kinder answer from men to women as opposed to how women react to women"  If this is so it is peculiar to THINQon!  Every other debating place I have found on the internet is much less "civilised" and the men among them tend to be carnivores, and cannibals at that!    Just take a peep at the "debate" happening at http://www.alternet.org/  ...  There is little civility in that place, and the worst of them are the men ... in fact, there are precious few women contributors at that place, which leads me to suppose many of the men are there just for machismo punch-ups.