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How to deal with interruptions to one's plans?
When you plan something, there is a logical chain of events that brings you from the original plan to its realization. For example, if you wish to make a cake and you start with the flour and eggs and open your cupboard to find out that you’re out of sugar, what do you do? It sounds like a silly question, but it is really tricky for me. When my plans are interrupted, it is as if I get paralyzed and don’t know how to go on from there. Another example of my lack of flexibility is that sometime I need to do things from a-z. I start in the order a, b, c. After c, I realize that I’m stuck and need to find solutions for d, that I might or might not find today. I know that I should just jump to e and f, that doing these will still get me closer to z, but I’m still intent on doing it all in my original order. I feel like I’m losing a lot of time and am exhausted at the permanent fight with myself- trying to get out of these “stuck” moments in which I just turn around and have no idea on what to do next.
How does one deal with interruptions to one's plans?
As someone who also likes lists and organization let me offer a suggestion. When you have a plan outlined you obviously made it with some thought and you probably made sure it was optimal given what you knew at the time, and so naturally you are in some sense committed to seeing it through because you feel it should be done (or that this is the best way to do it). So when you are at step c and something gets in the way, it may feel that if things get done out of order it might not be as right. One way out of this is to realize that the plan was made in a moment which was past. In that moment you had a strategy, which got you to the present moment, where things are different. Now that you are here, you may need to re-evaluate and choose a different strategy. It's not that the original plan was wrong, but it was optimal for its time, and the world has changed.

So now you are a person 2 weeks into your A-Z plan, and you are stuck at C. But from another point of view, you are a person who has already accomplished certain things, and now wants to get to Z. Where do you start? What new possibilities has the moment opened up?

In sum, I suggest that when you feel stuck, say to yourself: "Paradigm shift!" and try to find the most interesting new way of going forward.

A last piece of advice, it's really all in how you narrativize it. You want to get out of the micro-stuck moments you describe, but also the meta-stuck moments of feeling the world is thwarting your well-laid plans. How do you learn to make ordered, organized progress without controlling things, or enforcing blinders? That's a harder question...
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