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Intense speech
In the discussion on Matisse, Roy writes (quite brilliantly) that
"The audience is often the parents, but sometimes the lover. Speaking to a loved one is perhaps the strongest form of speaking equaling speaking to one's parents."

What is it precisely about these relationships which makes speaking so intense?
It's true and I wasn't aware of it till I read your post. When you think that parents see you develop from infancy, how you develop your speech, your ideas, how you improve in your ways of expressing them, I think that children often feel like performers in front of them. Parents are also a very careful public in the sense that they notice everything, what the child can do now that he couldn't do before, and they (usually) don't hide their happiness and admiration when seeing a progress, which in its turn makes the child happy and more motivated to perform.

I think there is a difference between the intensity of speech between children/parents and adult lovers. My experience of intensity of speech between lovers is not the "trying to impress/performance" part, but more a kind of seeing oneself in the eyes of the beloved. The gaze that is interested makes you become interesting. The desire in the eyes makes you desirable, it's another kind of intensity than child/parent.
Hi Molly,

Maybe it has to do with intimacy as per the transactional analysis: Candid but scary transaction because it goes beyond the well known territories of rituals, pass times and games. A speech gets intense when the transactioner overcomes the games’ barrier and approaches this form of intimacy.

The creative child (I understand the artist) charming his parents (his audience) is into games and not into intimacy. As such his speech is expected to carry less intensity.


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