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Rachel Lee

Is it possible to make long distance love last?

Latest Post: August 17, 2009 at 1:33 AM

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Do you believe in long distance love?
All relationships are tough, but they can become even more complicated and difficult when separated by hundreds or even thousands of miles. Whether you and your significant other are across an ocean or simply across the state, problems can arise simply due to the distance. When I was in college, my boyfriend and I attended different Universities in different states. I found it extremely difficult dealing with the distance because it inevitably created meaningless, stupid fights, mostly dealing with jealousy. There was always an issue with going out, hanging out with friends of the opposite sex and so on. These issues can be resolved quite easily if you spend lots of time together, but what if that's just not an option? Is it worth sticking it out and if so, is it the right decision?

Personally, I think that long distance relationships, while difficult at times, can ultimately make the couple stronger. You can learn to be together in separate environments and also retain your original self. In addition, it creates excitement and anticipation when you do finally get to see your partner.
So, do you believe in long distance love? I believe that if a couple is strong enough, they will be able to “stick it out”. What do you think?

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Jay Jeffrey (alias)

April 11, 2009 at 1:26 PM

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I think it hinges on communicating frequently - at least once a day. Even if it's not a lengthy phone call - but just one to say "Hi" and catch up or review your day with your long distance partner is important. It keeps channels open and will strengthen the bond of the relationship.There are so many technologies other than phone, too: Text messaging, sending photos and messages via cell phone, e-mail, even snail mail; webcamming or a simple greeting card in the mail. Of course, intimacy is so important, and again, technologies and old-fashion phone sex (stay creative!) should keep the relationship strong. Alas, there is nothing better than anticipating - and then actually being in - the physical company of your partner/lover/friend.Try hard to see each other at least once a month (overnight if possible) and of course, more often as both your lives allow.

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Chriselle (alias)

August 17, 2009 at 12:53 AM

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I'm in full agreement. My partner and I have been in a long distance relationship for five years. It can be incredibly hard at times but it makes the times together even more special. We've gone as long as 7 weeks without seeing one another due to both our busy schedules and those intervals seem exceptionally difficult. Trust is key and it's something we continue to work on every day.

If it wasn't worth it, we would have parted a long time ago. ;-)

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Jay Jeffrey (alias)

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August 17, 2009 at 1:33 AM

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I have a long distance relationship for 15 months. We talk every day, have phone or webcam sex at least once a week (busy schedules) and have been able to see each other approx. every third week to spend an overnight or two. We send cards, text messages - more often than not with a sexual overtone or direct comments - and it's great when we connect physically.