Mia , why chthonic? Of the Earth or sacrificial or something else?
Emotions usually have a purpose life. Love facilitates bonding and procreation&so on. Hate and jealousy facilitates what? Anger at loss, the fight part of the flight or fight duo. Hey - give me back what is mine. What I am thinking is that jealousy may be a defensive mechanism, part of mankind's survival instincts. Motivates one to fight for what one values.
On the other hand, there are some pretty destructive sides of jealousy where it motivates some pretty hateful responses. Can one experience productive jealousy and avoid destructive jealousy? And how does one distinguish jealousy from envy?
I just googled both words - on jealousy it says " It is not to be confused with envy". Envy, it says, "occurs when a person lacks another's (perceived) superior quality, achievement, or possession and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it.". So envy is a pretty negative emotion.
I bet psychologists have a field day with both.
I can't remember being jealous or envious of others - rather I've looked at what they have that I might envy or be jealous of and try to figure out how I can be there too (if that is what I want). Having said that, I'm sure it's not true. I must have experienced both in my life but I deny or ignore it - I tend to actively avoid dwelling on the negative. I figure that if one is minding one's own business, that is, you are busy living your own life, you don't have room for jealousy or envy. But I'm sure that is too simplistic, perhaps as illustrated by Linda O Reilly's experience.
Men and women experience jealousy and envy and to say you as an individual do not means you are lying to yourself.
To state men and women are different in their reactions is also not accurate. What do you think men who attacked their estranged wife is all about. The OJ case is a prime example.
To say we need to mind our own business is the way to go to avoid both of these emotions, however that is too easy of a statement. We are emotional human beings and do not run like machines with complete logic. We can say in our heads the logical approach, but that does not mean this is how we will act. We are adults and we know using a simple answer is just that, too easy.
Some jealousy or envy does not have to be destructive. It is how we react to these emotions is the real question. Will we become violent based on our jealousy? How do we control our reactions to a jealous situation.