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Let the kids win the game or not?
I wonder what would be more beneficial for kids when we play games with them, to let them win or not?

My brother asked me to let his kid win when we were playing, because he said "he is small." I think that it's better to educate them that you sometimes lose in life, stressing the importance of graciousness and teaching them to lose graciously. My brother wants to protect his kids and I believe that I protect them better by not giving into a non-real situation. Who is right?

What is a better way to educate kids, to let them falsely win or not?
Depends. Playing with my 5yr old grandson I throw the odd game to give him a taste of victory. After a while losing wrings any joy from a game. They need learn to lose with grace but also to win with grace. Games with my granddaughter, 7, are cutthroat, no quarter given. Fortunately she lets me win occasionally.
Crushing your nephew in a game may demotivate him and make him lose interest in the game. I am assuming you are much better at the game, hence the necessity of letting him win. Losing with grace is an important lesson indeed, but it's just one of many lessons and if you don't let him win it would probably be the only lesson he'll learn.

It depends a lot on the child's age. I'd say -- keep it interesting. Throw in the occasional hint that would give him a deeper understanding of the game even if it puts you at a disadvantage, don't try too hard to defeat him when he's doing well even if you can, give him the rewarding satisfaction of winning. If you play a lot, you can let yourself win once in a while to keep the game interesting for him, but (depending on the age) children don't always know how to lose gracefully so expect some disappointment. Explain to him that he can't always win and offer a rematch. As he gets better you can get more competitive. It's a growing process.
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