As far as sex goes, I’d consider myself quite reasonably experienced (few partners, many years). It’s pretty clear to me that even though everyone talks about the “naturalness” of sex, it isn’t any more natural than walking…and it still takes awhile to learn to walk! But with some effort things get better. And with some more effort they get a lot better. For me, though, having a partner helps the learning process.

Which makes it more difficult to improve in areas where partners don’t participate. I’m not so liberated that I can really discuss this a lot with others in person, thus this post. Is this really an area where there’s room for improvement, or is it just basically kind of boring? If I’m supposed to improve, what do I aim for?