When you want to talk to someone like a therapist, but also like a friend, and also like a soul mate, and also like a competitor, in other words, when you want to talk to some one, who can you talk to? Your therapist or your sponsor will, of course play a role, and it's like, OMG, they will lie if they think you need it. Your wife or your girlfriend, forget about it, you will need to tiptoe around sexual issues. Your soul mate doesn't exist, or is your wife or girlfriend, so same issues. Your friend has an agenda, and that's what friendship is about. Friendship is about establishing a status with another person. So if you're supposed to be tough, you are stuck in that role at risk of your friendship. Your competitor will only tell you the truth if it means he has a better chance of defeating you. So who do you talk to? Your cult leader? But then you have to swallow the cult bullshit. Your bartender? But your bartender is most likely a moron. Or let's say you got lucky, then that's the answer. You talk to your bartender.
